Sunday, January 25, 2015

I Forgot To Add This!!


I forgot to add this to yesterday's post!
(So if you haven't been on here for a few days there was a new post yesterday as well!)

I've gotten a lot of questions lately on different and random topics of my life and so I wanted to once again offer up the floor to reader questions! Feel free to ask anything you would like either by commenting on this post or emailing me at notmyshametobear@gmail.com.

The only thing I ask is that due to time constraints that these questions fall into a "general question about Eden's life" category rather than my perspective on something.

For example the two questions I've seen posted in the last day or so were "is the diet your kids are on doctor prescribed or something you have chosen to do?" and "how did you get started in dance?" 

So if you have anything like that, ask away!!

Don't wait too long, I will write up the answers this week and run them next weekend for  No Work Weekend!

Stay warm everyone!


82 comments:

  1. The Zombocalypse is upon us. What makes you uniquely suited to survive?

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  2. These may be personal but they are the questions I have
    How much ad revenue or donations does your blog generate and how do you use it?
    Do you ever resent your kids not because they make dating hard for you, but because you think they have a better childhood than you did? (Not asking because of you, but I have heard it in other situations)
    How many neighbors do you have and which ones are your friends, which ones enemies?
    What is your workout routine?

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    1. I also want to know what your workout routine is and if you use any supplements.

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  3. Are you gluten free as well, or just your kids?

    Read any good books lately?

    What's your favorite food?

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    1. Celiac disease (gluten intolerance) has a hereditary component and is more common in Irish people, iirc eden has Irish roots so maybe she had celiac symptoms? Idunnolol

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    2. Are you confusing gluten intolerance with incredibly high alcohol tolerance?

      Haha, but really, I don't know of anyone in my 100% Irish family with Celiac. Yet I have quite a few non-Irish friends who have it. The whole gluten-free diet may just be a trend for some people, but for people with Celiac it really sucks - they actually get really sick if they eat anything with gluten in it.

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  4. With everything you have gone through are you pro-life or pro-choice?

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  5. Do you worry that your son doesn't have any positive male role models in his life to help shape him into a man?

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    1. Also...have you seen this video (somewhat relevant to your experiences)? What do you think of it? IMO it's pretty powerful

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ertu9_MhFiM

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    2. Made me rage hard.I imagined what if that was my little sister...

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  6. If you had gotten pregnant by either of the rapes by the stranger man, would you have kept the baby or had an abortion?

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  7. You realize that by now anyone who sees your blog who knows you will be able to identify you immediately, and that covering part of your face is just a game?

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    1. I'll just answer this one here :) I don't really have anything to hide from the people who know me in real life anymore. Even if there were no pictures on this blog at all anyone who really knew me and read my story would know it was me. At the same time though I don't want to be as easily recognizable on the street or for people to start reusing my photos :)

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    2. I thought you hid you and your kids faces so your ex couldn't find you

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    3. I partially hide our faces so that I'm not as easily recognizable to people who don't know me. At this point if anyone who knows me reads this blog they are going to know it's me regardless of whether there are pictures or not. I hide our identities (names, business names, etc) so that him or his goonie friends can't simply google search my information, not to mention that it's just not a good idea to blatantly share so much identifying information with the whole world.

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    4. So there's no real reason not to show your face, you just think it's fun. People who don't know you obviously won't know your name or other identifying information just based on your photo. Plus half your face is already pretty recognizable.

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    5. That makes sense to me (I'm not the first poster), you don't need to hide from people who know you anymore, you need to hide from people who don't know you. I'm an avid reader and I probably wouldn't recognize you walking down the street unless you had a big white square covering part of your face haha! Like you said I wouldn't want someone reusing my kids pictures either.

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    6. She didn't say anything about this being "fun," she made a very valid point. She doesn't want to be quite as easily recognizable to people who don't know her (have you seen all the people on her "where are you reading from" page? She has a lot of people reading). That's a valid point. She doesn't want people reusing her photos or her kids photos, that's a valid point.

      At first I thought you were asking an honest question but when you added the little jab in about "so you just think this is fun" I realized you are just trolling.

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    7. I figured this question was going to go this route based on the way the question was worded (less of a question more of a "I'm informing you that what you are doing is stupid" statement) which is why I picked this one out to answer right here, because I'm not going to dedicate a post to it.

      I've explained my reasoning and there's not much more to say. Mr. Attorney Man and I had a long talk about this when we were deciding how I was going to proceed with this blog and if hiding my identity was even important anymore. I've come to terms with the fact that anyone who knows me and reads this blog is going to know right away that this is me, because this is my real life, the life that many of them know. So hiding my face from them isn't going to matter much, but yes, there are A LOT of people reading this blog and I would prefer to not be so obviously identifiable to random people that I encounter.

      Lastly again, having my face on here or not isn't going to fool my ex if he happens across this blog because he is obviously going to recognize his own life, but at the same time I don't need to tack on my real name and spoon feed him information.

      That's about all I have to say on this :)

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    8. I'm not any of the posters above (it's hard to tell if they're different people) but I agree you kind of are recognizable from your photos, especially with your eyes.

      I'm interested in your blog's stats!

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    9. And I'm none of the above people but YES you have crazy (amazing) eyes! Not sure I could miss those if I happened to lock eyes with you.

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  8. How close are you or was your family to your Irish roots?

    Did your ex husband also have an abusive childhood? Is he still paying child support?

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  9. Have you considered dating younger guys?

    Guys who like older girls are usually mature, want something serious (we're tired of boring girls our age), love the fact that they can learn so much from her, not afraid of a strong/successful woman, more likely to see her as an equal rather than his bitch...but at the same time having the optimism and youthful vitality that will make her feel young too.

    Trust me, I know from experience...the wife is 35, I'm 27!

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    1. Preach brother!

      I also love older women! 24 year-old postgrad here, seeing a smoking hot 30 year-old at the moment...a lady who has her life together and can hold her own is such a turn on. She's into art and I'm a science major so there's a ton I can learn from her about something I never really explored.

      This guy knows what's up!

      *Fistbump*

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    2. How "are" you a science major if you're a "postgrad," I would like to know.

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    3. Doing a PhD and my PhD major is molecular medicine, should have made it clearer

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    4. Wait, so guys who prefer older women are actually more mature? They don't just have mommy issues? Guess I'm doing something right...

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    5. Lmao yes CD, another one to add to the "older women are hot" club!

      Another thing I wanna add to R_Cheng's bit about older women...with people living longer, and improved healthcare over the decades (so older women are likelier to have successful births and healthy children), older women definitely have potential as long-term partners.

      Combined with the fact that women are more career-oriented and independent nowadays means they can choose to be with a guy they actually love (who may be younger/a career noob/earning less than her) rather than needing an older man as a 'provider' for financial stability.

      Even more reasons why older women are awesome (not that they need any more reasons) lol.

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    6. I'm not sure where "older women are likelier to have healthy children" is coming from. I'm pretty sure birth defects increase with age of the mother in particular and young mothers have the physical advantage.

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    7. I think there also seems to be a misconception that a younger guy can get a younger, cuter girl, and doesn't need to settle for an older one, but I'd challenge most girls to a bikini contest with Eden. Two kids later and I'm pretty sure she'd still take the gold.

      Older woman can be just as sexy, if not sexier than the younger ones!

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    8. I don't think he meant liklier to have healthier children than younger woman, just liklier in general to have healther children than a woman their age would have in the past.

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    9. Yes, this is also what I understood by Zoddbrah's comment..not comparing older women to younger women but that older women nowadays are more likely to have the successful labor and healthy babies than older women many years ago. This is correct as several health care statistics will show this, from World Health Organization for example.

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  10. Haha no way...let me guess, your girl found this blog via huffpost too? Better half was in tears after reading the 'if you're new, start here' bit...these kind of things really get to her.

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    1. Nah not Huffington post lol, some other chick site like jezebel or yourtango.

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    2. Oh, I see. I will check out jezebel and yourtango. Might be more articles by Eden Strong on these webpages...many thanks!

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    3. You can go to her "looking for more" tab at the top of the blog for more articles by her.

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  11. Which countries or states are your readers mostly from? Would you mind sharing your statistics?

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    1. Do your statistics show # of unique viewers? It seems like from the comments that you have a smaller number of extremely dedicated readers (who will view a page several times) rather than a huge number of readers who view each page once. Do you think this is true?

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  12. Have you ever been in foster care? You mentioned in your "My Story" post that you were bounced from home to home. Where did you live besides with your parents?

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  13. Do you like any celebrities? Who are people YOU admire?

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  14. How is the highway driving going?

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  15. What exactly has your mother been diagnosed with? And when she was, did you realize YOU weren't the problem? I wonder this because I feel like if a doctor had said "your mother is crazy", that would have changed everything. She went above and beyond to convince my doctors, school, and family that *I* was the crazy one. It's only now that I'm able to realize how normal my thought processes and behaviors actually are compared to hers.

    Also, how did your family react when you married your ex? Since he was so much older and came from a very different cultural/socioeconomic background, I feel like that must have been somewhat of a shock. Did you have a sense that people were thinking things? (even if they weren't saying them, gotta love Irish families.)

    There are a few more less important things I've been wondering about, but those are the big ones. Hope you enjoyed your weekend!

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  16. Could you speak more (if you are comfortable) about the drama that went on between your mother's parents, who committed suicide or murdered? I know your mom was a monster but that sounds like a pretty tough environment to grow up in.

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  17. Do you think your ex was raped in jail, which is why he sent a man to rape you?

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  18. Are you still in comtact with any of the street kids you grew up with?

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  19. This is going to sound stupid compared to the serious questions... but here goes. Do they have 99 cent stores in your area (or some places call them dollar stores)? I'm asking because the sort of stuff like dish soap and suchlike that you were commenting on/wishing for in your daiquiri post only costs a buck to get in those. Also, do they pay for return value on aluminum cans and plastic bottles in your area? (I've lived in a state where they do and a state where they don't. That's why bottles and cans have the different return values and deposits listed on the side of them.) Just thinking that you could collect the (returnable) bottles your friends are drinking from, when you have get-togethers, and then cash them in and buy the cleaning supplies at the dollar store. But, if neither option is available where you are then it's not a practical idea... ?! Also, if the kids have never been bowling, can't you take them to the next $1 bowling night? (If it's a weekend night, anyway, if it's like a Tuesday you probably don't want them up past their bedtime.) And as far as some extra income, you should be advertising on Craigslist to be a house organizing/staging person, the photos of your own place would get you several clients instantly, I would think. Just a few thoughts there!

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    1. Thanks so much for all the ideas!! I have a dollar store not in my town but a couple towns over that I utilize whenever I can :) Thats a great idea, thank you!!

      I actually do home organization/staging jobs, hence the photo from my last "things that make you ask why" post. I love it!!

      I do not believe they pay for bottle here. Possibly cans...

      You rock!!! and thank you for all your ideas!!!!

      *hugs*

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  20. I would like to know about your book. Progress, time period of your life, theme, etc, and do you have a publishing deal? Will you publish under Eden Strong? When should we expect it to come out and can we preorder?

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  21. Have you ever had an IQ test done and how did you do in school?

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  22. She has written before about her difficult experiences in high school. Eden is really smart and lots of other great qualities and that's all that really matters, not IQ!

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  23. To those whose comments never get published, try using a different web browser. I noticed it doesn't work in some browsers. You are supposed to be given a recaptcha and then your comment is published immediately.

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    1. Yes! If you don't see it right away it went into my spam box or got eaten by Blogger. I don't filter comments initially. I may delete it later at my discretion, but if you don't see it at all, that's a system error.

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  24. How is it with you and philosophy guy, and is your nonprofit up and running?

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  25. Has any random reader, either by knowing you in real life (who aren't the friends you told) or sleuthing or coincidence, come forward and said they know who you are?

    By the way - not to sound creepy, but I know where you live from an early posting of yours on the internet.

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  26. Were you able to enroll your kids with an Indian tribe?

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  27. Could you talk more about the time you lived with your grandma after high school?

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  28. (This is coming in late) What was your relationship to the one man you've had consensual sex with?

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