tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post5088532748318640519..comments2023-05-31T10:46:19.766-05:00Comments on It Is Not My Shame to Bear: It's About Time For Some Updates!!NotMyShametoBearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-21131146358992418712014-05-06T21:44:11.316-05:002014-05-06T21:44:11.316-05:00I've never heard of that site but it totally s...I've never heard of that site but it totally sounds up my ally! Thanks for sharing!! <br /><br />Yep, I just need my babies and a roof over our heads :) <br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-23341426516792696122014-05-06T18:42:56.201-05:002014-05-06T18:42:56.201-05:00You are a minimalist - Living with only the import...You are a minimalist - Living with only the important things! Check out theminimalists.com - I absolutely love their website & it reminds me to focus on only who & what adds value to our lives. I think it's great that you don't have so much "stuff" getting in the way of what you truly cherish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-66802704547288295282014-04-26T17:45:13.230-05:002014-04-26T17:45:13.230-05:00I agree, I should find out what I should legally b...I agree, I should find out what I should legally be doing with my parents before I get in too deep. I bet I can probably google or Avvo it. Trust me, I overwhelm Mr. Attorney Man enough with my ex, my blog, and my nonprofit, I'm not going to throw my parents at him too! <br /><br />As for the date guys, I think guys have some preconcieved idea they don't want to date someone who teaches a strip class because I share my sexuality with everyone and leave nothing for them. Like I must walk around all the time in stilletos and a mini skirt (leather of course), picking up johns and going down on people in the closets. I actually dress fairly modestly and am picky about who I mess around with. Oh well. Their loss as yea, if you pass the test, I am a lot of fun in the bedroom yet I've only ever willingly slept with one person so I'm not some girl who has been around the block 85 times. ;)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-50230832909526870962014-04-26T17:39:16.235-05:002014-04-26T17:39:16.235-05:00Haha! My babysitter said she saw her outside with ...Haha! My babysitter said she saw her outside with the dogs, so maybe she is still there and has retreated into her house out of sheer terror from the evil glares I give her, and only retreats out when I'm not home. In that case, AWESOME!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-59289989964161670592014-04-26T12:51:26.384-05:002014-04-26T12:51:26.384-05:00Do you have a Spy Neighbor that you can send in fo...Do you have a Spy Neighbor that you can send in for surveillance? Hehehe!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15035081560381283677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-87365250248010778872014-04-26T08:09:59.978-05:002014-04-26T08:09:59.978-05:00I totally agree with the consensus to make sure yo...I totally agree with the consensus to make sure you know your legal protections and rights where your parents' threats are concerned. I wish I could see the look on their faces when they realize they have completely lost their power over you and that you are no longer the person they intimidated, bullied and abused for all of those years. Man, when you use those Wonder Woman deflector bracelets for the first time they're gonna be shocked! When the lightbulb goes off for them and they realize that you are no longer afraid of them it's gonna be a sight to behold. Try not to go alone, if you can help it. Even bring your attorney guy if he's up for it. Then she'll KNOW you mean business!<br /><br />About the idiot dating fails, be glad they showed their self-righteous, pious character early on. They saved you the trouble of a life with someone constantly scolding, criticizing, tsk tsking you and trying to instruct you [read: control] of how you should be living. The right man will love and accept ALL of who you are and will trust your decisions. Besides, who wants a prude, anyway? Ick. If I wanted a lifetime of boring sex I'd just keep it to myself! My husband would LOVE it if I teached (or took) stripping classes. It's not only empowering, it's incredible for your body! Don't give up, Eden. There are more men out there like my husband who will embrace your stripper pole and, in all probability, ask for private demonstrations after class. ;) Come to think of it, your classes are a built in "test" to see if a guy is worth your time. If he objects you know to just move on to the next opportunity. If not, then you continue to explore and see if he's right for you. <br /><br />As always, be blessed. You are an incredibly strong woman who has turned shame into empowerment, weakness into strength and fear into ferocity. Don't let ANYONE make you forget that. Not even for a moment. vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490617339732484574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-34795686470750969072014-04-23T10:08:00.655-05:002014-04-23T10:08:00.655-05:00Oh really? I definitely want to read his brother&#...Oh really? I definitely want to read his brother's book!!<br /><br />No buyer yet, to be honest the inside of their house is ugly as hell so I wonder how long it's going to take. Brown stucco bathroom walls, black toilets, part of the floor is missing in the dining room!! The laundry closet is missing doors, the appliances are at least ten years old. This could take a while :(<br /><br />But...this is weird. I haven't seen the girl nutcase neighbor, their daughter, or their dogs in weeks. I haven't heard any yelling through the walls, NOTHING. I haven't seen her car or the dogs outside. Just Mr. Nutcase. I'm so nosey but I totally want to know where they went lolNotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-6015049910525267042014-04-23T04:35:42.186-05:002014-04-23T04:35:42.186-05:00I don't think so. His brother Richard wrote hi...I don't think so. His brother Richard wrote his own book, which was about how Dave's books had made him face up to the truth of what had happened and his role in it, as well as the way he had also been a victim of his mother's violence after Dave escaped.<br /><br />Who knows, maybe one day one of your brothers will have a similar epiphany.<br /><br />Have your neighbors found a buyer yet?snork maidenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12072762474400053537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-1295060998218770022014-04-22T20:18:08.348-05:002014-04-22T20:18:08.348-05:00Haha!!! Yes, shake your fists at them! And then do...Haha!!! Yes, shake your fists at them! And then do the same at my mother and my neighbors! Make it a weekend trip!! <br /><br />Census agrees, documentation it is! <br /><br />Frisbee Guy's parents rock :) I am very blessed to have them in my life!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-78309732558313061772014-04-22T20:16:21.154-05:002014-04-22T20:16:21.154-05:00I miss you girl! Glad you made it back over here. ...I miss you girl! Glad you made it back over here. Hope things are well with you :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-25728720935272425882014-04-22T20:15:58.120-05:002014-04-22T20:15:58.120-05:00Oh wow, I haven't thought about Dave Pelzer in...Oh wow, I haven't thought about Dave Pelzer in a really long time. I remember reading his books when I was in high school and being like "Yep, yep, yep, I agree. Yep. That happens." Poor guy. So his family never spoke up?<br /><br />The damnation part was crazy! Who even talks like that??<br /><br />Yes, I need the wretched neighbors gone. They were out of town this weekend and I must have thought, oh, at least 75 times "Wow, this is so nice!"NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-77525694518026702652014-04-22T20:13:53.658-05:002014-04-22T20:13:53.658-05:00Thank you Bridget!!! You always make me smile ;)Thank you Bridget!!! You always make me smile ;)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-8587938381453567252014-04-22T20:13:30.405-05:002014-04-22T20:13:30.405-05:00I'll have to mention in to him. I'm not su...I'll have to mention in to him. I'm not sure if that falls under the family law catagory, I mean they are family...but that might be more of a criminal harrassment issue rather than a civil family law issue? Something to look into for sure though.<br /><br />I actually spit out my drink when I read "shoot them." Hahaha!! If only it were that easy....NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-32090631713018958222014-04-22T20:12:05.046-05:002014-04-22T20:12:05.046-05:00Hi Ruth! Documenting is a good idea. Sometimes I t...Hi Ruth! Documenting is a good idea. Sometimes I tend to just ignore it bc I don't feel like I can deal with it, and then when I need proof that it happened I have none!<br /><br />Good luck with your mother moving in lol!!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-44533270051769837712014-04-22T20:11:01.978-05:002014-04-22T20:11:01.978-05:00Awwwww, thats exactly what I needed to hear. Thank...Awwwww, thats exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!!! You rock my world :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-39834798494655433342014-04-22T13:14:51.083-05:002014-04-22T13:14:51.083-05:00It looks like things are really starting to slowly...It looks like things are really starting to slowly fall into place for you. That's awesome. And Frisbee Guy's parents deserve a huge award for that gift they gave you. I'm so happy for you and what a huge relief it must be for you to have that weight lifted off your shoulders!<br /><br />Want me to shake my fist at those putting you down for teaching the strip classes? I have a very stern face and can do a scary fist-shake. ;)<br /><br />I agree with what others have said. Document EVERYTHING your family says/does/threatens/whatever and take it to Mr. Attorney Man if need be. Protect yourself and your family.<br /><br />Also, throw a party when your neighbors finally leave!afairytale84https://www.blogger.com/profile/03530192464441555381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-45925841356772118362014-04-22T13:04:35.564-05:002014-04-22T13:04:35.564-05:00Things are crazy and I haven't been able to re...Things are crazy and I haven't been able to read in a while, but took a minute to catch up with this post, and I just wanted to say I'm glad you're happy, girl, you deserve it :) <3Lotushttp://likethelotus.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-8321178096683420022014-04-22T11:26:11.482-05:002014-04-22T11:26:11.482-05:00I concur with the documentation of any and all cra...I concur with the documentation of any and all crap your family threatens you with. To be utterly cynical, anything they do do just adds further credibility to your story and will make them look worse. Dave Pelzer's family largely kept quiet, yours would be wise to follow suit.<br /><br />Sorry guys are being such jackasses about the stripping, it's clear that these are knee jerk reactions, if they listened to what you were actually doing they should see there is nothing exploitative about it, and as for 'damnation', oh please. Still it's a good test to see if a guy is worthy of being part of your life.<br /><br />I'm glad things are working better for you since you downsized the cleaning and built up the classes. I hope you get to keep on living in your house. Let's hope those wretched neighbors get gone soon.snork maidenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12072762474400053537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-40315805707015514822014-04-22T10:46:11.634-05:002014-04-22T10:46:11.634-05:00So glad to hear you're happy and surrounded by...So glad to hear you're happy and surrounded by people who care about you! Stay strong despite your mom - don't let her take away all the progress you've made. They only have power over you if you allow them to have it. Keep pushing forward! Good luck with the next 6 months!Bridgethttp://www.iwillbreakthecycle.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-43986019855798568432014-04-22T07:45:05.417-05:002014-04-22T07:45:05.417-05:00I think, if you haven't already, you need to t...I think, if you haven't already, you need to talk with Mr. Attorney Man to see just what your parents can do if you go forward with your story. They have used intimidation your whole life...don't let them do it again. Make sure you understand the extent of what they can do legally and where you are vulnerable to what they may do illegally. If you are, or can be, protected in these areas then move forward if you want. If not...then I say we just SHOOT them!.....oh....wait....typed what I was thinking instead of what is practical! If not then I guess you must reevaluate telling your story.<br />Mary Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08814636676077833766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-7813447665762910812014-04-22T07:34:43.264-05:002014-04-22T07:34:43.264-05:00Eden, I've always said that when you start to ...Eden, I've always said that when you start to go for what you really want, hold on to your hat. God won't work without you, but once you show that you're ready, things start happening that you'd never have imagined!<br /><br />As for your parents and their threats, notify Mr. Attorney Man right away, and document, document, document. It may or may not help if your mother knows that you've taken these steps--you'd know that better than I would.<br /><br />Blessings on you and yours! (And I completely agree about the wonders of simplicity--I'm in the process of downsizing both my own stuff and my mother's, as she's moving in. Should be interesting...)Ruth Cookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03601542517036599790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-57878482133190589582014-04-21T22:37:22.955-05:002014-04-21T22:37:22.955-05:00I am so glad that things are working out for you. ...I am so glad that things are working out for you. I think focusing on the not-for-profit was the best choice. I believe that God doesn't give you more than you can handle. For you to go through all you have gone through, and to come out of it they way you have, shows how strong God thinks you are. Not a lot of people can go through what you have gone through and come out of it as well adjusted as you seem to be. That's why you are meant to do this. Who else could help these other women as much as you could? You will be able to understand what they are going through and empathize with them in a way most people can't. I wish you all the best and pray for your success. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com