tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post6254582224049769787..comments2023-05-31T10:46:19.766-05:00Comments on It Is Not My Shame to Bear: When Everything Is Just Not OkNotMyShametoBearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comBlogger55125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-19405533748683170902015-07-02T22:00:46.255-05:002015-07-02T22:00:46.255-05:00Thanks! I'll look into it :)
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P.S. I&#...Thanks! I'll look into it :)<br /><br />*hugs*<br /><br />P.S. I'm glad you got the sign-in figured out!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-86357166892768924262015-07-02T16:05:58.171-05:002015-07-02T16:05:58.171-05:00ok i finally figured it out. yes you should def....ok i finally figured it out. yes you should def. check out some sort of ju jitzu classes<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18219041508940514467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-87916041371039125162015-07-02T15:53:16.529-05:002015-07-02T15:53:16.529-05:00you are a dancer. you are graceful and fluid. Ano...you are a dancer. you are graceful and fluid. Anon brought up a great point about self defenses. Since you are terrible at Karate. ( i was too), you should look into ju jitzu. it was created for the smaller person. My husband has been teaching our girls and our boys ju jitzu since my oldest was about 5. <br />Here is a link that I believe will really help you.<br />https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ikoUEjb3qP4 you can look at all of his videos and you will learn a LOT.<br /><br />I will continue to pray for you and your family.<br /><br />NIkki ( again this stupid thing wont let me sign in with my google+ id.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-71400205726915966842014-06-29T20:04:01.096-05:002014-06-29T20:04:01.096-05:00Yes, sorry it was your comment. For some reason it...Yes, sorry it was your comment. For some reason it was in the spam box and wouldn't let me publish it. I tried to copy/paste it directly to the post and I don't know where it went.<br /><br />I love all my readers, I am happy to answer questions when I can, but since this blog is not a job for me and I do write it with my anonymity in mind, I can't possibly explain every detail of my life here. Every detail will probably not always add up because there is just no way for me to write everything down and the details would bore you to death. <br /><br />For example, I said that the furniture was mine when I was younger. What was excluded was "The furniture was mine when I was younger except for her bed which is actually her crib that converted to a full size bed which is way to big for her room and I wish I had never done that." You would all get bored and be like "why is she telling me stupid details," details which for the most part ore irrelevant to the larger picture. Yet then there are the few people who are like "whoa whoa wait, you had a big bed when you were younger!?" It was not me intentionally hiding anything, it was me thinking "I don't want to get rid of the two dressers, nightstand, and desk in her room because they were mine when I was younger."<br /><br />There will always be things that without the ENTIRE background will not make sense to you, but I simply cannot go into that much detail.<br /><br />Well, I'm out, feel free to continue chatting and as always, thank you for reading.<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-68586337719018267072014-06-29T19:55:01.446-05:002014-06-29T19:55:01.446-05:00I think that was mine because I don't see it h...I think that was mine because I don't see it hear. I don't even remember what I said exactly. Just that you post three times a week and as far as I can tell you do engage the readers, you have asked several times what we want more of, you posted the hole "ask any questions you want" post and answered even the hard questions and you always comment back. Even companies have to draw the line somewhere with their customers and I don't think it's fair that people rudely feel like they can ask you a laundery list of questions, almost in a demanding form, and expect that you will just bow down and answer them. Companies accomodate their customers but they don't just lay down and roll over to them either. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-18408854647925855452014-06-29T19:47:25.077-05:002014-06-29T19:47:25.077-05:00Oops, sorry. I saw a comment go to spam and tried ...Oops, sorry. I saw a comment go to spam and tried to move it to "published" and deleted it. As weird as this conversation is for me to read, whoever it was that was posting is welcome to re-post their comment.NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-7853883967969631142014-06-29T19:34:43.748-05:002014-06-29T19:34:43.748-05:00It is true that people choose to read. That's ...It is true that people choose to read. That's why I don't understand when people criticize her grammar or say she is fake. But also, she does have to do something to keep her readers. Companies have to make accomodations to keep customers happy, and bloggers have to post regularly if they want readers to come back to their blog. It is a bit like a two-way street in the sense that the writer wants people to hear what she has to say, and the readers want to be able to comment on it and for it to be interesting, otherwise the writer loses her audience. It is a little bit more one-directional though since Eden doesn't sell anything or run ads, although there is a donate button. all about customer relations. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-5916593271047926452014-06-29T19:02:03.082-05:002014-06-29T19:02:03.082-05:00I agree with a few of the above posters. Eden has ...I agree with a few of the above posters. Eden has opened her life up and there will be questions, but the way that the first person asked, it wasn't out of curiosity, it was as a few people have said, rude, especially when yes, most of those answers are in the blogs.<br /><br />I think that people forget that it is them that chooses to read. When did people start to think they were OWED answers, when it is them who chooses to read? I find it a priviledge to be let into someone's life, Eden doesn't owe us ANYTHING. Just because skepticism exists it doesn't mean we have a right to answers about someone's personal life. We aren't buying a subscription here, we are utilizing a free blog. That's like getting a free sample and demand that it be in a larger size.Chrissinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-18423975116016135792014-06-29T16:12:31.714-05:002014-06-29T16:12:31.714-05:00Very true, but still in no way does Eden owe us pr...Very true, but still in no way does Eden owe us proof, we choose to read and I don't think there will ever be enough proof to satisfy everyone. I couldn't prove most of my childhood, especially if I was trying to maintain anonyminityAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-36654882053001974872014-06-29T15:58:48.417-05:002014-06-29T15:58:48.417-05:00Yes... that is the thing about the internet these ...Yes... that is the thing about the internet these days. People are more suspicious because literally anyone with internet access can pretend to be anything. So proving yourself to be real is something every internet persona has to do and skepticism is the default attitude...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-32380421666289098682014-06-29T15:48:59.288-05:002014-06-29T15:48:59.288-05:00I feel like Eden has been extremely open and gener...I feel like Eden has been extremely open and generous with answering all of our questions. Firing off a huge list of questions in a rather pointed and accusatory manner is just rude, especially when Eden gets trolled as hard as she does. This seemed less like "let me ask you a question I don't understand" and more like "explain yourself." <br /><br />Eden Being open and us choosing to read in no way means we have a right to every detail of her life and Im no way does she owe us anythingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-54419895082872911652014-06-29T15:14:20.665-05:002014-06-29T15:14:20.665-05:00Actually, I feel like Eden's openness about he...Actually, I feel like Eden's openness about her life encourages personal questions like the ones above. If she weren't prepared for those, then she might have been more careful about the details of her life. Talking about your parents though is kind of a minefield. Even if there is no doubt they were abusive, you know there can always be accusations like "you were too young to know what you're talking about" and "suck it up," since people who complain about their parents are usually seen as brat or ungrateful or immature. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-69421135181421080332014-06-29T08:20:46.370-05:002014-06-29T08:20:46.370-05:00Eden I can't even believe you responded to the...Eden I can't even believe you responded to them. Why do people feel like they have a right to be so rude? Most if not all of those questions have already been answered, several times before, in this blog. <br /><br />Clearly they have been reading it, maybe they should take some time to comprehend it too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-58162484625050529202014-06-29T07:51:11.062-05:002014-06-29T07:51:11.062-05:00You have to remember this is a blog, a collection ...You have to remember this is a blog, a collection of memoirs, not a chronological autobiography.<br /><br />I don't appreciate being interrogated like the above commenter said, especially, as they also point out, most of the answers are already in the blogs.<br /><br />Yes, as I have said several times before, my family did have money. Actually, the above commenter did a great job (thank you!) of answering most of your questions already. My mother had/has a severe mental illness she was in and out of the house for long periods of time. When she was gone, my father usually was too. Those are the times where I cared for my brothers and we didn't have food. <br /><br />Yes, I had bedroom furniture and participated in many different activities. I even had friends over to play as I got older. Some things/activities were for my parents repuation (we had to leave our bedroom doors open when company came over so that they could see how nice our rooms were if they went upstairs. Wierd, definitely) and some were just because my mother was on an upswing. Every single moment was not bad. There were a few good family vacations, I was not abandon on all of them like the one I wrote about. There were moments when I knew my parents were trying, but just as most abused people will tell you, it's a cycle and unfortunately the good doesn't usually outweigh the bad. It was also compounded by the fact that my mother has a significant mental illness and several personality disorders. Nothing was a constant, everything was ever changing.<br /><br />I chose to run away when things got bad. Sleeping on the streets had nothing to do with my parents financial status. I was never a drug dealer. I knew a few, I unknowingly married one, but I have never even so much as smoked.<br /><br />I hope that answers at least a few of your questions, the rest would require longer discussions and explanations and to be honest, throwing 15 questions at someone in such a direct and interrogative manner is not very polite, especially when most of the answers are already in the blogs.NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-69087755222910417012014-06-29T06:19:27.539-05:002014-06-29T06:19:27.539-05:00Wow, way to interrogate someone!
If you would ha...Wow, way to interrogate someone! <br /><br />If you would have payed closer attention you would have had most of your questions answered. <br /><br />She said her parents had money. She also said her mom was Im and out of the house because of a mental illness and her dad didn't always come home. That would explain the lack of and very candidly talks about how it was then that she took care of her brothers. She lived on the street sometimes because she ran away. Do you think she took her parents credit card and checked into the ritz? She also talks about going to college on an academic scholarship and from what I've read she is exceedingly smart. Her very first post talks about how people assume that abused kids can't be dressed nice and in social activities and in another post talks about how her parents put her in those things for their own appearance. You don't know what year her book came out and what year her teacher.basically called her stupid. Some teachers and just jealous of what they don't have and it wouldn't be far off from a person to berate someone they were jealous of.<br /><br />I could go on and on but quite frankly Eden has already answered most of these questions. Maybe you should spend a little less time skimming and a little more time actually readingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-91095899184173876512014-06-29T04:07:29.410-05:002014-06-29T04:07:29.410-05:00You had a queen (full?) bed as a little kid...
I ...You had a queen (full?) bed as a little kid...<br /><br />I don't understand what your childhood was like... I know your family was well-off, and you had a book published as a teenager (?!) but you also couldn't afford food at one point and had to take care of two brothers? Your high school english teacher told you maybe you should become a gas station attendant, which really doesn't make sense to me seeing as how you family was wealthy AND you were already a published author. <br /><br />So did you grow up in a nice meighborhood with a lot of material wealth? Was your school nice? You learned graciousness somewhere. What is your relationship to religion like? You never mention faith in your discussions of healing from trauma, even though you go to church and religion must play a role in your strength. You did a lot of activities when you were young, including swim, ballet, and piano. That sounds high-class to me. But you were also a street kid. My mind is bulging, it's like you're two different people fused in one! You had the financially struggling side with family problems and runaways and drug dealing(?), but then the clearing upper-middle class side of your refined activities, your fame in writing (btw were you famous enough that a random person might have heard of you?), and your nice furniture. So much packed into one life, and so much of it at extreme ends. How did all of that happen? What were the transitions like? like where did being famous and on a billboard fit with living under a bridge, and how did you go to college without your parents' financial support?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-39622526114008708812014-06-24T20:14:17.920-05:002014-06-24T20:14:17.920-05:00Geesh, I never even thought to move some of it to ...Geesh, I never even thought to move some of it to my room; that seems so obviously obvious. I needed you like a week ago lol!!!<br /><br />Stay tuned for my big reveal of what I ended up doing with my bedroom.... ;)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-11476109087949694312014-06-22T22:46:15.582-05:002014-06-22T22:46:15.582-05:00Since it has sentiment for you, why don't you ...Since it has sentiment for you, why don't you share it with her? :) Why don't you move some of it into YOUR (now fairly bare) room? She will know she will have it someday of course, but for right now, moving a piece or two out of there instead of having it all crammed in together (while the lonely bed in your underfurnished room is screaming for some fellow furniture to keep it company...) would help both of you. It would free up some space in her room for rearrangement, and would add a bit of comfort to YOUR room (not quite so stark in there...) Kind of a win-win situation! (Might even make you feel good having it around you again right now, since it seems to have positive vibes for you?) She can still see it in your room and know it's still there for her but she can also enjoy not being so cluttered in hers. ?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-64893953504878169392014-06-22T18:21:54.499-05:002014-06-22T18:21:54.499-05:00It's possible that your brother took a medal, ...It's possible that your brother took a medal, maybe a bronze or silver, and then several years later took a gold. I know you said your brother is like 28ish now and I'm assuming that if you traveled there with your family when you were younger that his winnings could have been spanned out over quite some time. <br /><br />Or I could be wrong, I'm just trying to help clear up your confusion!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-12245989798998151962014-06-22T18:19:27.301-05:002014-06-22T18:19:27.301-05:00<3<3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-63130691180583288682014-06-22T13:43:18.178-05:002014-06-22T13:43:18.178-05:00Actually, I don't know if there are seperate y...Actually, I don't know if there are seperate youth/adult games, but he was a youth at the time. <br /><br />Now I'm just confused lol. I really couldn't have cared less about karate so I wasn't really paying attention. I just got tired of hearing my father telling anyone who would listen about my brother's winnings.<br /><br />:)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-78598548368711848522014-06-22T13:30:58.018-05:002014-06-22T13:30:58.018-05:00Hum....well to be honest I'm not sure then. ? ...Hum....well to be honest I'm not sure then. ? It was the youth division, not the adult. I know that we went and he won and then several years later he went again and he won again, and that was something about him qualilfying to try out for the olympic team, but other than that I don't know. Seems like every weekend there was some tournament somewhere so there is a good chance I'm mistaken. I personally only went to one Pan American games so maybe I'm mistaken on the other one's. <br /><br />I know you aren't stalking lol. If I had anything to hide I'd just delete your comment, but I'm going to be honest and say that maybe I am mistaken! NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-77273844700438707672014-06-22T13:07:06.343-05:002014-06-22T13:07:06.343-05:00sorry for stalking, but I was curious and so..ther...sorry for stalking, but I was curious and so..there's only one american man who's won the pan american karate games more than once, and he's not 26 or 24. I'm not trying to rat you out in any way Eden, it just doesn't make sense to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-84158923168780761232014-06-21T22:50:26.201-05:002014-06-21T22:50:26.201-05:00thanks hun :) I sure how they know that I tried wh...thanks hun :) I sure how they know that I tried when they get older. Kudo's to your mom for doing the best that she could :)<br /><br />Thank you :)<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-73935221388617831422014-06-21T22:48:10.698-05:002014-06-21T22:48:10.698-05:00You know I've thought about it and I just can&...You know I've thought about it and I just can't sell it. It was the furniture that I had when I was growing up, that I clearly spent a lot of time with since I spent so much time in "trouble" and in my room. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter I had it refinished but wouldn't let anyone sand the teeth marks off the corners that my cat had left before he died. It's got a lot of sentimental value and I want her to have it, which is why it's all smashed into her room haha.<br /><br />Thanks for the idea though!! If it wasn't sentimental I would totally sell it!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.com