tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post7592761800813522995..comments2023-05-31T10:46:19.766-05:00Comments on It Is Not My Shame to Bear: I'm Afraid Of MeNotMyShametoBearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-43849243836755364652015-07-22T21:37:24.791-05:002015-07-22T21:37:24.791-05:00Oh and good luck!! :)
*hugs*Oh and good luck!! :)<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-46545953054756588282015-07-22T21:37:07.727-05:002015-07-22T21:37:07.727-05:00Trust me, I know how scary it feels, as you can se...Trust me, I know how scary it feels, as you can see by my post! The key is to just take little steps towards your goal. If I can do it, so can you!!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-9246079822353118282015-07-21T12:28:05.366-05:002015-07-21T12:28:05.366-05:00Hi there... I just found this post because is bei...Hi there... I just found this post because is beign a year and a half since i last drove in united states. I learned to drive when I was 26 and I only had to drive on a country road to the house and walmart so it was easy. Life took me to Germany where I had to learn how to drive in the european roads, after 3 years of practice in europe life brought me back to the states and now I am in one big and busy city. I am intimidated, I haven't touch the car for a year and a half, only as a passenger and I get heart attacks every time I see how people throw themselves in front of you with no signal and run red lights. San antonio sucks for people like me who fear driving. My husband is no longer going to be able to take me to places so I have to start driving soon. i cant refuse since I have 3 kids and I am suppose to take care of them. I dont want to be like your mom, but I fear the freaking highways. I dont want to be that mom that hurt my kids or make them become like me. They know my fear, they know when their dad is gone I will probably wont drive to the city to avoid accidents. =( I guess I can think that I can practice slowly and maybe then I be ok. I guess I can get in the highway and get off on the first exit, and next day get off on the second exit and so on. Maybe then I will feel more secure. I fear many lanes and I am not too quick at passing people. I wish I could be like everyone else. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-21579494978713293812015-01-15T00:10:07.683-06:002015-01-15T00:10:07.683-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Trevor Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02774138419631259653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-36354316996597578382015-01-15T00:09:21.411-06:002015-01-15T00:09:21.411-06:00Sorry about that, but I do read this blog every we...Sorry about that, but I do read this blog every week, you can be sure of that. Trevor Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02774138419631259653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-38302690068051867752015-01-13T19:04:41.952-06:002015-01-13T19:04:41.952-06:00We will do this! Next year we will look back and l...We will do this! Next year we will look back and laugh at ourselves. Take the sign and run with it!! :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-74680132211429259362015-01-13T19:03:57.144-06:002015-01-13T19:03:57.144-06:00I feel you on that. Do you ever feel like you are ...I feel you on that. Do you ever feel like you are going crazy at home without a car? I think I would lose my mind, but then again people tell me the same thing when they imagine being stuck in the suburbs!<br /><br />Geesh it's crazy, I didn't know there were so many people with a driving fear. I'm glad to know I'm not alone!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-67545138408474432282015-01-11T12:08:14.663-06:002015-01-11T12:08:14.663-06:00Oh I'm gonna do it. Just since I wrote that, a...Oh I'm gonna do it. Just since I wrote that, a friend offered to sell me his car... between that and this post, I wonder if this is a sign?!<br /><br />I know how weird it is to not have done simple things like this yet in other ways, you've seen too much. You're probably more scared because you've never done it, I know that's my problem. But sometimes our comfort zone is only that because it's all we know...<br /><br />*hugs back atcha*CDnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-70212573265879578682015-01-10T23:46:54.074-06:002015-01-10T23:46:54.074-06:00I haven't driven much in a long time. We'r...I haven't driven much in a long time. We're a single car household and my husband needs the car to get to work. I get to drive once a week, maybe. I used to drive everywhere- highways, dirt roads, cities with no second thoughts. Now it's nerve-wracking for me. I want to get to the point where I'd feel comfortable driving anywhere with my daughter in the car. She is the most precious thing in the world to me and I am terrified that I will get into an accident with her in the car. Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03792197358143132340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-68848790209155301272015-01-10T20:21:26.420-06:002015-01-10T20:21:26.420-06:00You should get your license this year!! We will al...You should get your license this year!! We will all face our fears together!!!<br /><br />Come on, we can do this :)<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-13383168675823316202015-01-10T20:20:24.454-06:002015-01-10T20:20:24.454-06:00Whoa and I didn't get my license until I was 1...Whoa and I didn't get my license until I was 19 either (and I really didn't even start driving until I was into my 20's).<br /><br />Thank you, we can do this!!<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-36766361960293653232015-01-10T11:51:19.058-06:002015-01-10T11:51:19.058-06:00You think you're bad Eden - I'm 25 and sti...You think you're bad Eden - I'm 25 and still don't even have my license! Luckily now I live in a place where I don't really need a car, but ultimately I know it's a fear I'm going to need to face. Same goes with everything else you mentioned... jobs, relationships, everything where my luck has been bad/nonexistent and I just learned to go without because it's less painful. I feel stupid to keep trying - as you mentioned the other day, the definition of insanity? Lolol, maybe that doesn't apply to everything...<br /><br />Also, as someone who also grew up isolated, I too was fearful of the world (including driving!) because my mother was. And with your mother it sounds a lot worse than just anxiety. Just... scary. I hope you're able to make sense of her behaviors, as irrational as they were, and learn from them. Cause this is something I'm still struggling with.CDnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-71577762044359809182015-01-10T02:23:28.063-06:002015-01-10T02:23:28.063-06:00Eden, we must be long lost sisters or something be...Eden, we must be long lost sisters or something because my mom was the exact same way. She told my siblings and me it was because she was once in a car accident on the highway. She would always drive local and us kids always had to get up so early and were a little resentful. I ended up being afraid of driving. I didn't get my license until I was 19 (partly also because my mother would have been the one to teach me, haha) and I was terrified to use it! I also have anxiety and nausea when riding the car with other people. I am afraid when I see her in myself too and becoming like her is one of my biggest fears! This is the baggage our parents have saddled us with and it's up to us to handle it for the rest of our lives and hopefully not pass it on. I find something that really helps is remembering that when you are driving, YOU are driving and in control. Part of the fear and trauma comes from not being in control of the car when we were riding. Good luck to you!tuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03269734703669739988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-44492955641860476142015-01-09T21:55:15.674-06:002015-01-09T21:55:15.674-06:00"Courage does not erase our fears, courage is..."Courage does not erase our fears, courage is when you face your fears."<br /><br />I'm trying to find the courage lol!! WHERE IS IT HIDING!?NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-12418696128804582812015-01-09T21:53:02.385-06:002015-01-09T21:53:02.385-06:00Aw, that actually sounds a lot like how I try to p...Aw, that actually sounds a lot like how I try to parent, make the opposite choices. You seem like an AMAZING mother to me :)<br /><br />Thanks love <br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-6124826645571751482015-01-09T21:52:04.782-06:002015-01-09T21:52:04.782-06:00Wow I haven't heard from you in a while!! Than...Wow I haven't heard from you in a while!! Thank you for your support, it really does mean a lot :)<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-10502266411467617132015-01-09T09:26:41.703-06:002015-01-09T09:26:41.703-06:00The unfortunate reality is that the ONLY way to st...The unfortunate reality is that the ONLY way to stop being afraid of something is to face it over and over again. Every time you face it, it gets a little bit less. The nice thing is that if you realize that you can conquer one fear, you realize you can conquer them all. I have great faith that you'll conquer this fear, wherever it comes from, and many others besides. And also know that sometimes fear serves a valid purpose. It's ok to heed the fear without letting it control you. :-) Eatabagofrichardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08049463741637011276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-55803577320952256402015-01-09T09:08:25.121-06:002015-01-09T09:08:25.121-06:00When I was a new mom many years ago, I too was afr...When I was a new mom many years ago, I too was afraid of becoming my mother. She had physically abused me for most of my life (what I now understand, can forgive but never forget, was her immaturity and mimicking her own childhood upbringing). I did everything in my power to NOT become her. When faced with choices I would think "What would my mother do?" and then do just the opposite! When my infant son would cry inconsolably, after trying everything I could think of (wet diapers, hungry, pain???) knowing my mother had hit me as an inconsolable infant, I put him in his crib knowing he'd be safe and I sat on the bathroom floor crying and rocking myself until he fell asleep - just to keep myself from hurting him. That was the only time I felt like hurting my own child but 34 years later I remember it like yesterday. You can do this Eden, you are not your mother and you've proved it over and over again. Take a small ride on the highway at an off time and you'll prove to yourself that you CAN do it. Faith that you can ...† ♥Butterfly14https://www.blogger.com/profile/02926860094911883915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-86786274477410375322015-01-09T02:00:58.495-06:002015-01-09T02:00:58.495-06:00You can do this Eden! You've fought off so man...You can do this Eden! You've fought off so many other demons in your life and won, this will be the same. We're all behind you. Trevor Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02774138419631259653noreply@blogger.com