tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post6058261827279526486..comments2023-05-31T10:46:19.766-05:00Comments on It Is Not My Shame to Bear: The Truth Will Set You FreeNotMyShametoBearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-74397208171597944722016-10-30T15:52:25.452-05:002016-10-30T15:52:25.452-05:00If you look at it on a surface level, I can see wh...If you look at it on a surface level, I can see why you might think that, but everything from the abuse to his departure is much more than just surface level. For example, the abuse got SO MUCH WORSE simply because he was around. When he had someone telling him that he was too good for me (paraphrased, but that's what he seemed to hear), he felt even more justified in his treatment of me. And, even just knowing for a fact that your husband is cheating on you, hurts in ways I wouldn't wish on anyone; whether you like your husband or not. <br /><br />She told him he could leave, which did turn out to be a blessing, but that doesn't mean that what happened was all a blessing.NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-61467470236981117442016-10-30T15:44:59.004-05:002016-10-30T15:44:59.004-05:00I can't imagine what I'll feel like when a...I can't imagine what I'll feel like when and if that day comes. A mix of emotions I'd guess...<br /><br />I'm happy you are free :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-36410922079943987382016-10-30T15:44:11.394-05:002016-10-30T15:44:11.394-05:00*hugs**hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-73472797442784650502016-10-30T15:43:05.315-05:002016-10-30T15:43:05.315-05:00My ex is completely out of the picture, with the e...My ex is completely out of the picture, with the exception of me pursuing child support. :) It sounds like you've been through a lot! I'm happy to hear though, that you are finally out and your kids are safe :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-9733024841600696112016-10-30T15:40:33.913-05:002016-10-30T15:40:33.913-05:00Thank you so much for your sweet words :) I'm...Thank you so much for your sweet words :) I'm so blessed to have such amazing readers!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-25908622426272962012016-10-30T15:40:08.377-05:002016-10-30T15:40:08.377-05:00Aw thank you :)
*hugs*Aw thank you :) <br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-87463820008816818452016-10-30T15:39:30.918-05:002016-10-30T15:39:30.918-05:00*hugs**hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-54113982950457758152016-10-30T15:39:20.784-05:002016-10-30T15:39:20.784-05:00Trust me, you are not alone. Since it happened to ...Trust me, you are not alone. Since it happened to me, I've met a lot of other women (and men) going through the same thing. It's a hard road to travel, but you are not alone :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-69466324949343763332016-10-29T01:07:05.718-05:002016-10-29T01:07:05.718-05:00One thing that struck me is when you stated I don...One thing that struck me is when you stated I don't know why I felt the desire to share such intimate details of my life to the woman who may have had a hand in helping to ruin it, but I just couldn't stop myself."<br /><br />When you were in the situation, you were looking for a way out. You desperately wanted to leave but were terrified to do so. So why do you state that this woman had a helping hand in "ruining" your life? Especially now, after all these years, why would you look at it this way? Every person, drug, and circumstance that had any part in leading to your husband letting go of you was a blessing! I am confused why you think differently? These people, while unknowingly and definitely not trying to, helped your life OUT OF RUIN. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-69691369065622191862016-10-28T15:39:03.886-05:002016-10-28T15:39:03.886-05:00Your experience struck a deep chord with me. It b...Your experience struck a deep chord with me. It been decades since I got away from the abuser and I just found out online that he died last year. I finally can stop looking over my shoulder.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-25019590020463198182016-10-28T13:35:10.985-05:002016-10-28T13:35:10.985-05:00I would say, that when the husband-abuser, whom wo...I would say, that when the husband-abuser, whom woman could not leave due to the bad legal system in the country, has finally left her, it must have been a big luck for her and her kids! Good, that somebody told him to leave her, because after that this innocent woman could finally get free of him and start a normal human life! All the husbands-abusers, who are evil to their wives and kids, have to leave their suffering of abuse families and go to the hell! Women and children, these innocent victims, must get free and live happy and healthy life.<br />And my message to the young girls,- DON'T GET MARRIED! Often society does not help women with kids to get rid of cruel and violent husbands and fathers. But it is much easier to leave, if you are not married. <br />GOOD LUCK TO ALL WOMEN&GIRLS! BE STRONG! BE FREE!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-11395510988192347022016-10-28T13:26:15.440-05:002016-10-28T13:26:15.440-05:00It is uncanny how close our stories are even down ...It is uncanny how close our stories are even down to the time frame! I finally said enough July 5 2012. In your story you speak of him threatening to call the cops when you were defending yourself, my ex did and I has honest and told them I hit him because he had me trapped in the hallway corner, it's zig zag. I was arrested and luckily was able to get a diversion. I stayed at my moms and finally went back after he begged me too and at the same time threatened to take the kids. When I went back he threatened to kill me if I ever left again. It has been a battle as far as the kids, they are so forgiving. Finally after 4 years of courts, police and child protective services my children do not see their father alone. It is amazing how courts ignore abuse or allow it to be minimalized. Unfortunately for my family the protective services do not act unless there is clear physical abuse they pretty much have to see it themselves to do anything. " Kansas is the only state in the country that requires clear and convincing evidence to substantiate an allegation of child abuse or neglect.<br /><br />Read more here: http://www.kansas.com/news/special-reports/in-need-of-care/article1281829.html#storylink=cpy <br /><br />If your ex is totally out of the picture I would recommend keeping him out as people with his mentality will use the children to hurt you. Even if they don't realize they are really hurting the children. My girls have endoured a lot because I kept giving him chances or they forgave. I wish you and your children the best!!! Keep on pushing forward and be the person whom your children can look up too! Thank you for helping other women!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-83172729474738017012016-10-28T10:27:04.305-05:002016-10-28T10:27:04.305-05:00Thank you for sharing your story. Your stories tou...Thank you for sharing your story. Your stories touched my heart from the yahoo story posted today on domestic violence to your personal blog. I just finished reading the above blog with tears in my eyes because I could relate to your story. You are a strong lady and I want to wish you all the blessing you deserve with your children. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-5472924875411253382016-10-27T21:08:22.290-05:002016-10-27T21:08:22.290-05:00You are truly an inspiration to so many woman. Th...You are truly an inspiration to so many woman. Thank you for your strength and courage to speak out and help others through your own story. I gain from your strength. May God always bless you and your beautiful children to continue to survive and strive everyday moving forward. #staystrongforever #womenempowermentAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14262275840682468144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-21331043102945774362016-10-27T20:28:47.275-05:002016-10-27T20:28:47.275-05:00Thanks to Our Lord and Savor. Jesus Christ. that t...Thanks to Our Lord and Savor. Jesus Christ. that this will never, never happen to anyoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-84326986690320889892016-10-27T20:24:30.587-05:002016-10-27T20:24:30.587-05:00My ex husband walked out 2 years ago when our son ...My ex husband walked out 2 years ago when our son was 6 weeks old and daughter was 2. He didn't say anything, just disappeared. Since then the lies have unraveled. It has been a painful journey. There are days like today when I wonder if we will be okay. Knowing I'm not the only person this has happened to is so helpful. Thank you for sharing your story and hope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-59264043354177706172016-10-18T22:23:37.928-05:002016-10-18T22:23:37.928-05:00Lol, right!? Court again in a few weeks!Lol, right!? Court again in a few weeks!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-67148842820706397182016-10-18T22:23:19.480-05:002016-10-18T22:23:19.480-05:00I was very surprised with EVERYTHING she had to sa...I was very surprised with EVERYTHING she had to say. I really wasn't expecting that, but I'm glad we got the chance to talk :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-13695716837173064452016-10-18T22:22:47.345-05:002016-10-18T22:22:47.345-05:00He was the one who encouraged me to talk to her :)...He was the one who encouraged me to talk to her :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-38470022300370701422016-10-18T22:22:27.045-05:002016-10-18T22:22:27.045-05:00Very happy to have helped
*hugs*Very happy to have helped<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-38789137668265643612016-10-18T22:22:12.091-05:002016-10-18T22:22:12.091-05:00Thank you love!
*hugs*Thank you love!<br /><br />*hugs*NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-31782546388415643482016-10-18T22:21:59.599-05:002016-10-18T22:21:59.599-05:00Thank you, they mean a lot to me!Thank you, they mean a lot to me!NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-33920328714255161862016-10-18T22:21:37.480-05:002016-10-18T22:21:37.480-05:00You are very right :)You are very right :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-6037674691486917182016-10-18T22:21:02.371-05:002016-10-18T22:21:02.371-05:00Thank you :)Thank you :)NotMyShametoBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679891969349514369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4828879467490478491.post-44486174428607993742016-10-09T05:07:25.861-05:002016-10-09T05:07:25.861-05:00You deserve these answers, I'm glad this chapt...You deserve these answers, I'm glad this chapter can close. Now if only he would pay some damn child support!Trevor Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02774138419631259653noreply@blogger.com