Friday, April 17, 2015

Is It Time To End This Thing?

And now I bring you Part 2 of "Eden's Unprofessional Dating Advice."

(Seriously, I get a lot of emails asking dating advice, which I think is kind of funny because hello, look at my life, yet you all seem to trust me anyways)


One of the most common questions that I get asked falls along the lines of "should I breakup with my partner?"

It sucks, being in that undecided place where you want things to work out but you aren't sure they will. Where your heart and your brain are fighting a battle and the brain knows it's not right, but the heart doesn't care because unlike the brain, the heart hurts. 

Should you break up with them? I don't know.

I guess when you boil it down the real question becomes "is this relationship helping me or hurting me?"

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Essential Items For Tornado Preparedness (Or How To Have A BBQ Under Your House)

Below are a few pics I snapped on my phone last spring.

When you live near farmland like I do, you tend to get hit with more severe weather than other areas might.

Not only can you get caught in the deadly situation of driving for miles upon miles with no place to seek shelter, but just the simple fact that the wind itself travels unobstructed for miles before it slams directly into your neighborhood is dangerous enough. Where I live has been known to have some pretty intense tornadoes and because of that, most people around here take the threat of storms pretty seriously.

Friday, April 10, 2015

The Perfect Victim

Did you know that according to Popular Science, roughly 5% of women who are raped experience an orgasm during the assault? And that’s actually a pretty low statistic because I’ve read other studies that that statistic at a much higher percentage.

I personally know for a fact that it does happen simply because I've worked with some very confused women in my groups that have suffered through that experience. These women have had a really difficult time being able to deal with the trauma of their assault, due to the confusion that comes along with experiencing what is usually perceived to be a pleasurable thing during such a traumatic experience.

These women typically take longer to move past their trauma because they are even more unsure of the roll they played in the situation than the women that didn’t orgasm. Even in the most violent of attacks, the cases that 99% of society would call a "clear cut rape case," if that women experienced an orgasm during the attack there is a high probability that she will carry more shame about the attack than if she didn't orgasm and the rape was less clearly defined.

That right there is incredibly sad because studies have proven that an orgasm during rape is due to the brain confusing the adrenaline rush of fear with the adrenaline rush of pleasure, and when you add in the fact that there is manual nerve stimulation taking place, sometimes the body just does what it’s designed to do regardless of what we want it to do.

So if a woman has an orgasm during a rape event, does that make her any less of a victim? Does that make her trauma any less real?

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

What The Hell?


Moms, do I really need to say anything else?

They really are a different breed aren't they? I give my daughter a toy and she's all "this is great! Show me how it works!" and I give the same toy to my son and he's all "this is great, whatever it is and whatever it does, but what else can I do with it and more importantly, how can I take it apart?"

Boys are just... different.

Aside from all the times he wants to show me his muscles:

Friday, April 3, 2015

A Different Kind Of Post

The post that you are about to read is different. 

I know, a new blog design and a different kind of post all in one week!


Promise, this is a one time thing.

This post, it's definitely unlike anything I've posted on here before and something that I thought long and hard about before posting here at all. As most of you know, I'm the founder of a nonprofit in my area. When starting any nonprofit, one of the biggest tasks is integrating yourself into the community and letting people know that you are here. When our organization first started out I was asked to come speak to a woman's bible study and let them know what we were doing. We are are not a religious group but I myself am a Christian and I thought it would be a neat opportunity to share a little bit about how I felt God was working in my life, so I jumped at the chance.

I went, I spoke, and before I knew it I was receiving invitations from other churches of all denominations to come and share my story in front of their congregations as well, and so I did, over, and over again.

Today I would like to share that story with you.

Now as I said, I thought long and hard about whether or not to post this here. While I take a pretty strong stance on many subjects in this blog, I've avoided any heavy religious posts because I want everyone to feel welcome here, regardless of their religious or non religious preferences, and the last thing I want to do is to start a religious based riot.

You know those super loud Bible beating Christians who not only try to forcefully convert people, but who also think that everyone who doesn't fit into a tiny little box labeled "Christianity" is going to hell?

Yea I'm not one of those people. 

Not even close.

Thursday, April 2, 2015

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Eden is a serial dater.

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Hey! Have you guys heard the news? I'm a serial dater. Yup. So says a lot of people apparently. I'm cool with it though, because it's probably actually true.


Monday, March 30, 2015

The New Government Conspiracy

After nearly two decades of hard drug use, my ex's brain started to cook. I feel fairly confident in giving him that medical diagnosis despite the fact that I myself have never personally attended medical school, simply based on the fact that I was around him long enough to watch his brains actually start to cook.

(I also feel like I'm semi-qualified to diagnose people with various ailments because I've watched enough Discovery Health Channel that I'm basically a doctor now.)

So what does it look like when someones brains start to fry?

Think schizophrenia brought on by drug addiction.

When the delusions brought on by his drug use started to interfere with his everyday life, my quasi-medical school degree clued me into the fact that his brain was cooking. When no one around him was able to verify that what he was seeing was real, he did the most logical thing that someone in his position would do and he saw a doctor  stopped using drugs  did anything logical at all  decided that the rest of the human race was in on a giant conspiracy theory and he was the one we were out to get.

Yep, fun times.

**I feel like I should add in a disclaimer that I myself eventually made an appointment with a doctor who specializes in addictions to make sure that my ex didn't have an untreated mental illness, and the doctor agreed that it was most likely "just" the drugs.**

Abuse aside, living with someone who is paranoid 100% of the time is really freaking hard. I was the target of many of his conspiracy theories and as his brain continued to cook itself (I'm deeming that an actual medical term based upon the fact that I've watched like 30 TV marathons of "Mystery Diagnosis" and as I said, I'm pretty much a doctor now), he even progressed into sleepwalking.