It's been awhile, are you guys ready for an update on The Nutcase Neighbors?
(If you are new to the blog and haven't read the back story of The Nutcase Neighbors, click the topic tab labeled "neighbors" on the left hand side of the blog to catch up!)
As I had last left it, they had moved out in August; kind of. If you remember, they had gotten married, despite their obvious relationship issues. Mrs. Nutcase got pregnant and she and Mr. Nutcase had their first child in july. Mrs. Nutcase had been wanting to get out of this state for a while (as long as I have known them in fact). They had a specific state they wanted to move too and Mr. Nutcase was actively pursuing job opportunities in that state.
Well, they got what they wanted and Mr. Nutcase landed a job in the state of their choice.
Well, they got what they wanted and Mr. Nutcase landed a job in the state of their choice.
The two Nutcases put their house on the market and were all ready to move across the country with their little family when suddenly, there was a flaw in their plan....
Apparently Mr. and Mrs. Nutcase had concocted this little "moving across the country" plan without consulting Mrs. Nutcase's ex. The ex that she shares a child with. The ex that gets the child every Wednesday and every other weekend.
Now I'm going to stop for a minute and say that all of the info that I'm about to give you next is strictly second hand. I have no first hand knowledge of any of this, but I will say that my sources are pretty damn reliable.
Ok, back to the story.
So Mrs. Nutcase apparently decided to move across the country without informing her ex. Well, the ex went ahead and got a temporary court order saying that his kid cannot leave the state.
Oh no! Whatever will they do?
Rest assured, I will tell you.
When Mrs. Nutcase's new baby was 13 days old Mr. Nutcase left town without them.
Mrs. Nutcase took her new baby and other child and moved in with her sister, thus finally leaving the residence attached to me. (YAY!!!!)
In the meantime, the house has sold but has an extended closing that won't be finalized for a few more weeks. That seems to be working out nicely for them because Mr. Nutcase has to continuously fly back to be at Mrs. Nutcase's side for court hearings and during those times they use the house as a crash pad. I'm selfishly not a fan of this arrangement because it means that they occasionally pop up unannounced on our common driveway.
No. Thank. You.
No. Thank. You.
At least they only use the house for the court hearings that actually happen. A couple weeks ago Mr. Nutcase flew all the way back here only to land and have Mrs. Nutcase's ex say "oh, didn't you get the paperwork saying that the hearing had been rescheduled?"
So Mr. Nutcase turned around and flew back to work.
Their next court date isn't for several weeks which really sucks because Mr. Nutcase only has a week left until he has to formally accept the new out of state position. Oh yea and the job he had here, he can't go back to it because it has been filled. If he accepts the job and then finds out the rest of his family can't move, not only will he have to quit, but the company won't give him a good reference for future job applications (he has worked there nearly his entire adult life). If he doesn't accept the position, then he has no job.
So right now, Mr. Nutcase is living across the country for a job he doesn't officially have, while their house is sold but not quite, while Mrs Nutcase lives with her sister, newborn, pets, and child that is legally not allowed to leave the state, and from what I hear they really hate their attorney.
Karma's a bitch!
In all honesty though, even though they have turned a stone cold heart towards me, I don't feel the need to do the same to them. I don't think they are inherently evil people, so if you could throw a few prayers their way I'm sure they would appreciate it.
Either way, it's been really nice not having them around!
I don't know the history here but that ex sounds like an asshole. He's not willing to step up and care for the child during the hearings process, forcing his ex-wife, her husband and their other child to put their plans (their long wished-for plans, so I doubt that he didn't know a thing if he really saw his son that often) on hold during an expensive and long process. And this is to protect his right to see his son an average of 1.5 days per week. I don't see why he couldn't take care of the son full time until it got sorted out, but I guess that's the rights men fight for. To be able to control the movements of their ex-wives under a suspicious cloud of smug self-righteousness.
ReplyDeleteWait hold up. He's the asshole? From the sounds of it she decided to move his kid (girl? boy? Eden didn't say) out of state without telling the kids father. Who said he isn't willing to care for the child? We don't know that, Eden didn't say that. You're jumping all over the dad and the only information Eden gave was that she didn't make sure it was ok to move before she decided to do it.
DeleteThought I'd jump in here real fast lol!
DeleteActually, the father and his family have been trying to get more rights to see the child. The extent of that I can't comment on, but I know that the father actually moved his wife and their child here to be closer to the child he shares with Mrs. Nutcase. They were never married, Mrs. Nutcase and the Ex, so my understanding of it was that custody just sort of defaulted to her from the beginning and it's been somewhat of a fight ever since. What has the neighborhood in a buzz (small town, stupid gossip) is that she didn't clear any of this with him before she decided to move (based on what she has told people). From past converstations that I have had with her myself, that is something I would believe to be true.
She probably could have left and left the child with the father, but even though I personally can't stand Mrs. Nutcase, she does love her children very much and I know she wouldn't go anywhere if the child couldn't go with her.
So my take on this, she's just not the brightest crayon in the box. I can't vouch for the Ex or what kind of person he is, but if you have a court order saying that your kid goes with the father several times a week, you have been in court because that father and his family want more rights to the child, why would you think it was ok to move out of state without clearing it through the court system?
Sorry GE, still love you!
As long as you still love me it's not all bad. :P
DeleteI don't know the background facts of the story, I'll admit. I was speaking more out of frustration because mothers are disproportionately screwed by the family court system, yet there's a persistent cultural myth that women get the upper hand when it comes to custody.
GE, you are so right about the cultural myth! Fathers are generally held to a much lower standard (Oh, you want anything to do with your child- you must be an amazing father!) than mothers (What? You spend $20 on yourself instead of your child- you must be a terrible mother!). I work in family law and this drives me absolutely nuts.
DeleteOf course I still love you GE.
DeleteI agree about the whole fathers vs mothers in the court systems. Fathers can do half as much and its often counted the same as when women do three times as much. Not always, I have seen reverse cases, but it isn't the norm in my experience.
I guess I'm going to have to chip in here, as a father I totally got screwed over during the divorce took me years and thousands of dollars to save my kid from his abusive mother. I don't know if u know this but a woman simply has to say her husband was abusive and his life is over regardless of being true or not and is the cheapest way for a woman to get what they want in a divorce. Not saying every woman is like that but every single divorce I have seen the woman has chosen the route of "he is abusive" which instantly grants them without a shred of proof temporary custody and protective orders, guilty until proven innocent.
DeleteUgh that's awful :(
DeleteHonestly I think it depends on the area you are in. I know that in some areas abuse is a divorce issue and doesn't play into custody very often no matter how abusive one spouse was to another, as long as the kids weren't hit it doesn't count in custody. On the other hand I have definitely heard of women claiming (false) abuse just to get the upper hand in custody (doesn't always work out for them, again, I think it's a location thing). I've knew a very nice guy whose wife falsely claimed abuse against him when her attorney suggested it and it really hurt his chances at custody. I also knew a woman who lost custody to her husband because he had a better job, even though he abused her. The judge said since he hadn't hit the kids that they would be fine.
One day we will all just wear lie detectors into courtrooms. We can put men in space but can't do that.....
Karma IS a bitch. lol I can't imagine how frustrating it must be to be soooooooooooooo close to being rid of them, and yet soooooooo far. Keep hanging in there! If they're selling the house, it'll happen eventually anyway. They can't just back out of the contract without a stiff penalty.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, hopefully everybody involved in the nonsense gets what's best for them (including YOU!!!). :)
The moving trucks FINALLY came so hopefully that makes the crash pad less appealing lol!
DeleteWow, I hope that all gets settled. And I bet it's nice not having them next door fighting all of the time.
ReplyDeleteI have my own bad neighbor story. Lots of fighting, stomping, parties, and questionable people. I even got the wife a job at my work, and after a month she just walked out of the job. Thankfully, they moved out because we're getting our rent raised or some shit. It's soooo nice and quiet now.
Yay for yours being gone!!!
DeleteIt's been quiet here for a few days now and I'M LOVING IT!!!
Oh, geez. What a mess. What was that woman thinking? Haha.
ReplyDeleteDid everything get sorted out?
From my understanding of it, not yet!
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